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Originally Posted by Lisa and Pic  Interesting topic... I have often felt different types of emotions about my DH not doing much around the house.
Honestly, for my generation (Baby Boomers), I think some of us (women) thought we could do it all, in the work force and at home. It reminds me of the old, old, commercial, "I can bring home the bacon, fry it up in the pan, and never, never let him forget he is a man." (something like that) Does anyone remember that commercial for perfume?
Anyway, I digress... so here we have a whole generation of women going off to work, but not having a generation of men that were used to helping around the house. And, if we did not raise our sons to be helpful, the whole cycle starts over again.
I have learned to pick and choose my battles through the years, and realize that I am going to be the one keeping the house clean because it is more important to me. My DH has lots of other great qualities, so I have accepted this. Kind of a compromise in my own head.
Good luck to you, as you sort through this... |
Very well said..."I am woman ..hear me roar""
I do think life is seen through different glasses. What I mean is, if I am in a bad mood (having a pity party so to speak) I could tell you my life story and make you cry. I would focus on the sad events the negative. It would be true but is it the whole story? If I am in a great mood and told my life story (same life) it would sound happy...challenging events at times of hardship but a lot of happiness and blessings. Which is the truth?
It all comes down to you... your mental health, your view of what your life with your bf is and your view of your future. We want you to make the decision with a healthy heart and head. I am not saying leave him...if he was absuing you in any way I would come help you pack..but it does not sound like he is. I am saying ... you change. The only person you have control of is you.
Yes, I have read some of your other post about making good choices on your life. You are getting out more, you are making friends that is sooooo great!! Good first steps. As to going back to NC..well you really never can go home (I understand, I hate Miami I am just a southern girl at heart and would love to move back to Bristol Va)..home is where the people you love are.
Work on ONE thing at a time with him. For example I do have my dh loading and unload the dishwasher... yea!! Small steps. He did remind me I don't give him credit for watering the plants, taking out the garabage, changing all the light blubs etc. You know...he was right
oh well... hope my ramblings help in some small way. What I tell my girls who are around your age....make a list ..pro & cons which side wins?