Well..im not help really eventhough I do have a 7 yrs old and 2 yrs old girls. My 7 yr old is a great kid but when she gets out of line all i say is you want me to spank your butt and shes done. I have only spanked her 3 times since she was born. Now my youngest is a handful but I have it to where I count 1-3 and she knows if i reach three shes getting a spanking. I have only spanked her around 4 times and it wasnt hardly a spanking. Some people dont agree with spanking but I do it gets them in control but as I have said I rarely have to spank them I just get my mad mommy voice and they chill out. I wasnt much help but thought id share! timeout works on my kids too so again NO help!!