I didnt read all of the responses because my eyes are really tired. But,if I were talking to one of my daughters,this is what I have said. Men ,God love them,are not even close to being grown up until they are 30. It is the fault of our society,not all his mother's. If you love him and are willing to spend "til death do us part" with him,pick your battles. If you are wanting a 50/50 relationship ,these happen mostly in the movies and novels,not in real life. I put my DH through college,he worked part time,I worked full time. I kept the apartment that we lived in,we did the laundry (Im not going to a laundrymat by myself),grocery shopping was me or us. I ,to this day take care of all of the animals,except I do NOT walk dogs unless I am the only one home. The kitchen did and still does get cleaned by me unless I ask someone else to do it. I reserve the right to not cook any and all evenings as my personal schedule sees fit.
I do NOT put gas in my car,check the oil or any other fluid levels. If my car breaks down because he didnt take care of it, I raise H@!! and chances are pretty good that I will forget to do his laundry for a while. We have been together almost 40 years. This works for us. If you want to stay together,instead of trying to change him cause that isnt going to happen, find what works peacefully for you. |