I also agree, Carmen. He can change, but the circumstances in his environment will have to force him to change, or he needs to see the need and want to make the change.
On a funny note, they say men look for similar qualities in a partner as their mother and women look for similar qualities as their father. My dh is not much like my dad, and I cringe at the thought that I am like his mother. LOL, but....as long as I enabled him to be helpless, I was in a sense like his mother. When I realized that, I put a stop to doing things for him he could do himself.
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