[lovespandp]

Originally Posted by brezofleur

To be frank with you, Carmen, why would he change? His mom did everything for him and now you are. He's never lived on his own and he's 21.

Unfortunately, this is what happens when you don't learn life skills. He's still young so he should be able to still "learn" it but it's not going to change. Truthfully, if I were you, 5 years is long enough. You were in HS when you met. And that's great, but people are supposed to change. It's healthy to date around when you're young.

But, you've been dating for 5 years. And that's really, really hard to accept and end things.

Just know that he probably won't change, no matter how you wish he will.

I'm not telling you to break up with him, so don't anyone attack me, lol, but I'm just telling you that I was in a similar relationship and even though it hurt and I wanted to die (not literally...) after we broke up, things went really well afterwards.

Why would you want to be with someone that makes you miserable in ANY way?

100% AGREE!