My brother many years ago got bit by something. They at first thought a tick.... but after a few days he had a lump the size of a basketball (not kidding!) so he went to the ER. At first they thought he had Lymes disease, all his joints and muscles were soooo sore like he ran a marathon (which he does do ironically... but not this time). Anyways, it was a spider bite, the ER gave him stuff (not sure what) but when the lump went down, it peeled like a sunburn. Took a good 3 weeks on meds.
My Dads wife got bit by a spider a few years ago in the garden and got blood poisoning (red lines that come out from the center where the bite is to the edges of the swelling). They kept the spider, brought it to the hospital and I don't remember what it was, but she had anti-venom shots, took months for the bite marks to go away.
Most recently my little bro got a spider bite while sleeping at my house in the basement bedroom. He had fang marks quite similar, they locally swelled and were painful, he 'popped' them and clear liquid came out, warm moist heat on them to draw the rest of the fluid out and he was fine the next day.
I think a lot of nasty spider bites that you see, are actually dependent on the person the spider bit. Some are not affected at all, even by a brown recluse bite and some lose huge chunks of skin. If heat/ice does not help, or red lines form or joint/muscle pain or stiffness happens to your hubby, go to the hospital. Better safe than sorry!
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