What did she really say / do that ? Yes, I do understand hurt feelings. When I was younger mine got hurt all the time. My husband suggested telling people when they hurt my feelings and why. At first that was very hard for me. I was afraid of hurting the other person's feelings. Any way I learned how to tell people and I toughened up too. I would say something like, "I probably took that the wrong way, but what did you mean by _____ ?" or "I get upset when you say I have gotten fat. I know I am fat but, please don't say that again. It hurts my feelings." Some time you have to be blunt, sometimes you can be very nice.
__________________ Teresa & Rubin, Gracie, Abba, Ginny Joy and Julia Rose  Act like a dog, be kind, forgiving, and loyal. |