As someone who has experienced abuse themselves I will say this.....from the time I was 3 until 7 my brother and I were physically, mentally, and emotionally abused. I hardly saw my dad, my mom was the abuser. When my dad did come around he saved our lives. I threw up every night (almost) due to being thrown agianst the wall, shaken, scared for my life, knifes thrown at me, etc etc.... I still til this day remember everything that's ever happened to me.
What I'm pointing out is Even though I went through all of that I'm not afraid of my step-mom (now adopted mom after dad died). She's the greatest person I know. It took me time to get used to her and having sisters and an additional brother, but even before that I didn't have any fear of her.
I think you only experience that type of fear (coming from experience) when that person is around. This man is BAD news.
Plain and simple. I don't care how he treats his family, your family should come first in your life and Obviously your pup is afraid of him. He may treat his family and human members of yours with the up most respect, but when you're not around how does he treat your pet family???? Men often time put on shows around us women to keep us around, If we knew the truth we would leave them in a heart beat. If a man gets defensive over you questioning him about his involvement with the dog, chances are he's lying.
I don't think he's worth trusting around your pup, sorry just my opinion not trying to offend in any way.
I've had a hard life for my age(23) and have under gone a lot of traumatic experiences. I have to say that the only time I was ever really afraid was when that person would come back into the room or was around. My mom when she was abusive would act normal around daddy, but the minute he left we were told to "SHUT UP, GO TO YOUR BEDROOMS!" then the day would start with whatever she felt we deserved. My daddy was/is my hero, if it weren't for him I'd either not be alive right now, or a prostitute working on the street corner to help my mom pay bills. Do the right thing, get rid of him or find out NOW what's really going on. He's not going to come clean with you asking, you gotta be sneaky. |