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Don't you have women's shelters in the big cities that you could call and ask what to do? Here in American it seems that there are several resources women with dependent, ill children can turn to in order to get out of very bad home situations. Surely there are churches or synagogs in your area that could help direct you to help and counseling - someone to sit down and talk to. Often the religious institutions do have their own women's services and counseling, psychologists. But you need some help in dealing with what sounds like a very tough situation. I cannot imagine a man telling me I have to do anything!!! I just cannot imagine hearing those words. That must be so devastating and belittling for you. Anyone that would talk to his wife that way, "tell her how it's going to be", that sort of thing, is not cherishing that woman in the way he should, not treating her like the true companion and love of his life. He's treating you as if you are a child and you apparently feel you have to do what he says. Try to reach out and find some help where you can for you and your son and also getting that religious help of some kind. Perhaps some men in a church could talk to your husband and get him into some counseling with you while you are job-hunting and trying to set up another situation in the background. I wish you the best in job-hunting and dealing with your difficult life situation. I hope you can find some help and I will be praying for all 3 of you and that little dog of yours.