[lynzy420]

The behaviors your husband is showing are clear signs of an abuser, wether its emotional and physical abuse is unclear, definitely emotional.

As a woman I beg you to take a sincere inner inventory of yourself and your life, seek the help of a counselor FOR YOU before joint counseling. These behaviors are demonstrative of a very toxic relationship by both of you.

You mention that he has forced you to give up animals or things you love before, and yet you continue to introduce animals in to your home? For god sakes stop it, stop perpetualizing these behaviors in your relationship, its one thing for you to stay and put up with it, but to drag other animals in it and have the same outcome over and over is wrong on both your parts. I certainly hope you don't have children and if you don't please consider staying childless.

I am not trying to be harsh, I'm giving it to you straight. I work in a program where we shelter families who are fleeing husbands and fathers much like yours, I am extremely well educated on the subject and have once been a victim as well. I know and have seen firsthand what emotional and physical abuse is, your reaching out here and you know this is wrong, but you don't know how to change it and you think you can't so you continually OBEY him and do what he wants, pack a bag...don't think about it, just do it...only you can change your life, you will be ok and better for it...regardless of what you do, rehome your current pets and get your life together for you. If you stay, rehome your pets and STOP bringing new ones in, JUST STOP IT.