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Originally Posted by seastheday  Hello Everyone. I am new to this forum. Actually, when I got my Yorkie Barkley 13 years ago, I read posts and gained a ton of information. I never registered. Last week I lost my beloved Barkley to an aggressive form of stomach cancer, then I registered. While, I am sure most of you will say that I had 13 wonderful years with him, I still wanted more. His diagnosis and subsequent death were 9 weeks apart. So, basically I have been crying since September. There is a huge void in our lives. My husband is retired and wants another Yorkie NOW - I need some time. Saying that, I cannot stop reading your posts and reading up on the breeders in our area. I am also signed up with all the Yorkie rescue sites in the state. I feel that it is way too soon to replace a dog that was such a big part of our lives. Your posts and information have opened my eyes to so many different things that I did not know about Yorkies. I know that I bought him after having two rescues and I wanted a smaller dog. I knew nothing about Yorkies. What I got was this wonderful little dog, who was easily trained, funny, smart and had the most intelligent and expressive eyes I have ever seen. We learned from each other. I don't know when the time will be "right" for me to bring another baby into my house. All I know is that Barkley is everywhere I look. How long did it take for all of you to get over the loss of a pet?
Ronnie |
I'm so sorry you have lost your sweet Barkley and probably know exactly how you are hurting. We've all been where you are before more than once and the pain of losing your friend never leaves, you just learn to live with it, so it gets better. Eventually your body takes over and replaces raw pain with sweet memories and smiles when you see their toys, leash or picture, see a favorite chair. So in time you do stop hurting so much and see a way forward. After a while, you begin to long and miss having a dog best friend so much you are driven out past your pain and loss to try to find more of that kind of love.
Just don't wait too long. I waited 5 years after I lost my Scotty and 4 after I lost Jilly and it took me a year to find Tibbe after I started looking. I almost got to the point I didn't look after living w/out a dog so long after losing Jilly and I didn't want the disappointment of coming home empty-handed. But eventually, I missed having a Yorkie so much I HAD to get one. I'm just not meant to live without a Yorkie and neither are you. The first time I sat Tibbe down in my home, life was right again. He was like having Scotty and Jilly again but all wrapped into a totally different dog. He's as different from them as night is from day and yet has so many of their Yorkie ways it's like they are back in so many ways.
Remember, more than anyone, your little Barkley would want you to give another dog a loving home - would want you to know that kind of love and special relationship again. You know you would have his blessing to begin looking as soon as you feel up to it. You know that! Dogs are such social animals and so full of love, no doubt they would grieve to think of their special person so alone and hurting. More than anything, getting Jilly and then getting Tibbe helped me heal of my grieving the most.