Hummm, I'm not sure if you are joking or really want ideas, but I'm going to take it that you are serious.
Raising our three, we encouraged them to figure our problems - and stood by to pick up offer an encouraging work to clean up their own mess. We engaged in conversations and allowed them the freedon to speak their minds, as long as they were respectful (respect wasn't optional).
We taught them to do things, read directions, and NOT BE AFRAID of making mistakes. The only way you can learn to think is to be free to make mistakes - you learn what to do and what not to do. Our children were raised on a farm. At an early age they had responsibilities. We weren't afraid to trust them to do BIG jobs. One small example is that during hay season the youngest (daughter) started when she was still in elementary school driving our dulie truck pulling a 30' hay trailer in the hay fields while the two boys, their father and I picked up hay and stacked it on the trailer. They helped to train horses, their take care of health issues, birthing, shots, etc. and weren't protected from breeding, births and death - after all those things are part of life. Our kids were cherished members of our family and although they were always allowed to "just be kids" they were treated with respect as a knowledgeable human beings. And over the years I learnd so much from them!!!
We were stric parents and had rules and each of which had a consequence which was explained in detail. Then we let them make their own choices (as much as we could). Our kids were taught that if you got caught doing wrong then you faced the conseuences (negative) - just as if you did right there were consequences (positive). If serving the sentence was worth the consequence (and sometimes it is
) then go for it, but be ready to pay the price.
Our three are adults 30, 29, and 28 (in a few days). They all are doing fantastic, have great careers, know how to think through problems and make decisions based on possible positive and negative outcomes. I feel so proud of our three - hubby and I feel that if we do nothing else in our life we have made a positive impace on society with our three wonderful kids.
Sorry for getting on my soapbox,
but you did ask