[yorkietalkjilly]

I would just ask her if she is deliberately trying to hurt my feelings because ALL women know that this does, whatever their age, unless they have dementia or some such brain disease. Just look her in the eye and ask that and maintain that eye contact throughout your exchange. When she begins to defer and tries to deflect, tell her that she knows, just like you and all other women, pointing out perceived weight gain in another woman is hurtful and you want her to stop now.

I think it is always best to confront attempts at bullying in any form up front and be willing to challenge them on their territory. You do not have to be nasty or ugly about it, just open and honest that you aren't having it. If you don't, over time she may escalate her game and ruin your day time after time.