Well when I started reading I thought I would have words of advice and wisdom...I have a 25 and a 26 year old. The teen age years were very rough.. I sure made mistakes but I will say they are the joy of my heart now.
I believe in tough love...I don't think a mother can be a best friend to a teen age or young 20 year old in that we have to be the adult. It shows more love to stand for what you believe in and not giving into them. I would honestly KILL my girls if they used my card for booze...period. If the older one doesn't want to talk to you..fine.. She will come back when she needs you or sees she was wrong.
I truly feel that your only obligation at this point is to be sure they are safe and ok...
Now .. As I said I did have a hard time. I kicked one child out because I would not let her boyfriend live in our house! No way no how! But I was at the court house with her when the relation turned abusive (which I knew it would) to help with the restraining order and I did not say I told you so. Of course she could come home when she was ready to follow my rules..and now she is 26 and doing well on her own. I had some of the most difficult days of my life with that one!
So.. Hang in there.. Do what you think is best.. Lay down some rules ..
Good luck
__________________ Shinja mom to  Remy  lil Sis to   Bailey and Sammy  |