[Deadbug]

I'm right here with you.

I'm ashamed to admit that I'm one of those kids. I gave my parents such a hard time. And as luck would have it, I'm also dealing with the same stuff you are with my oldest. She's the most stubborn young lady I've ever met, aside from the one in the mirror. She's also 21. I think it's just a tough age.

You have to let her go until SHE is ready to come back. You've done your job. You taught her how to survive. You've given her the skills. Now the rest is up to her. And trust me, she'll figure it out.

Young girls can be terribly manipulative. She didn't want to ask your DH for money for food and take the lecture because she wasn't there yet. She hadn't hit rock bottom yet. If she NEEDED it, don't think for a minute she wouldn't have humbled herself, listened to hubby and gotten some money for food.

I promise you, when she has a kid, she'll realize within a few weeks you weren't mean at all. She'll be back then. Unfortunately, that's what it took for me.