[jp4m2]

I can understand how you feel on some level. Years ago we had a baby shower for my Daughter. There was a certain family who had a history for not being too thoughtful when it came to reciprocating. But it didn’t matter to us they get invited for the company. When it came time to open their gift it was a baby pj in a plastic frame type package. The card had all of their names attached to this one gift, that would be the four of them. My daughter thanked them and went on with the events. After they all left we were admiring some of the gifts when my daughter picked up the pj. package . It was then she noticed the sticker on the back, it was from Big Lots. We just laughed about it, they sure are consistent …..

Every time a family member is disappointed or annoyed with a friends (or family members) behavior I always ask them if this behavior is out of the ordinary. Every time they will respond that it is not, that it is typical. Then I tell them so why are you expecting something different??? You got exactly what is their norm, stop expecting something you never got in the first place. It makes life a little easier if we stop putting *our* expectations on others......