[Lilymo]

I pick the eye gunk out a couple of times a day with my finger so it doesn't build up. My hubby thinks its gross but Iv done worse for my skin kids lol. I used a basin of water and a face cloth to begin with on my girls I put the shampoo in the water and washed then down with the cloth squeezing it over the back until they were wet through. Once the got used to that I started standing them in the basin and pouting water from a cup over them avoiding the face now after a few months I can use a shower spray. It took time to build up their confidence. Sounds like you have some troubles of your own. It's good to hear your wee girl is a comfort to you too. Great idea putting timers on your phone. I use mine too to remind me to give mess and stuff. Good luck and don't give up. You are both worth the effort.