I know for the food part it could help if you start with holding the bowl and taking pieces out and hand feeding it to her. And work from there. We had a miniture dachshund that got aggressive with his food, bone, etc. Because my in-laws would bark at the kids not to go by him when he was eating. But I retrained him on that. Not sure on the others but it sounds like you are making progress. It just may take time and she will get there.
