I agree: "who cares what others say"...
Besides, being "in for it" means you get twice the love, twice the fun, twice the enjoyment, twice the pleasure of seeing them grow up. If everyone only had ONE of a 'thing' there would be no 2 or 3-child families, no 2-car families, no 2-TV families...
The decision is yours...whatever
you think is what is important...and it is a decision you're wrestling with because it is an important one and you want to make the right choices this time...same as every time. Good girl!