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Originally Posted by jmdt  Actually it wasn't my friend, it was her mother,(she lives with them). It's the 14yr olds grandmother.
I guess the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. They never learned to keep it shut unless if you have something nice to say.
No the smoking comment didn't bother my kids, they know I smoked when I was younger..thinking I was cool!! They know.
Her 14yr old emulates everything my daughter does. I mean everything. She looks up to my daughter I guess. I bought my daughter a princess crown necklace a number of years ago..don't you know she got one too. When we went over there yesterday and she had a temporary tattoo on her wrist of the wings with the heart...the same one my daughter has. When my daughter asked her about it she said her friend got it out of a gum ball type machine at toys r us and she gave it to her. My daughter just rolled her eyes at me as if to say.."she did it again"
I mean I could go on and on. Whenever her kids got sick her mom would say "oh you got it from her kids" When my kids weren't even sick.
She would put this 21 yr old, when he was a baby, in the high chair in the livingroom for hours so she didn't have to chase him and the squirt him with a squirt bottle if he started to get antsy.
But she is mother of the year!!
When I lost my twin girls I got pregnant again within 3 months and she says to me, "Oh don't you people have a tv"
So I am very used to the way she is, but I am not like that. I say nothing.
If it was my son who is 13 hanging around with a 16 or 17 yr old that I now know is a bad influence. I certainly would not allow them to "hang out" I definitely would not let them go to the prom together!!!
So what she does with her kids I bite my tongue and say nothing. I just thought this was very odd. I mean can't they find friends their own age?? |
Well, it sounds like there is some competition going on between the girls, as in the grandma and mom maybe a little jealous of your girl? It's not unusal for the young one to copy and older girl. Lol, If no one ever copies you, you probably don't have very good taste! It really sounds like the 14 year old admires you daughter a little too much and maybe she'll hang out with any 17 year old that will allow her to hang out with them? Usually the older child, won't stand for it. So now I'm wondering what's in it for the 17 year old?
This is the first I've read of chasing a child with a squirt bottle, is this really considered a good thing? I know the high chair is a bad thing, kids need to explore and crawl, but why the squirt bottle. Oh, it's a good thing I'm not on any parenting forums, I'd go nuts.
I'm so sorry that you lost your twin girls, that must have been so hard for you, and your friend really sounds so insensitive. I don't know, sometimes they say opposite attract, how does your friend support you in your life? Has the friendship become more of a competition? You say that you don't speak up, maybe you should tell her some of the things that are bothering you. If talking is too hard, sometimes a letter can help. If you talk about how she makes you "feel" instead of how she is wrong, maybe she'll listen.