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Originally Posted by Nancy1999  Thanks for giving me a clearer understanding, I can see why you are upset by the whole thing. I'd actually feel better about the girl going if it were a romantic relationship, but if it's not, it means they are going to the prom stag, and looking for fun. She may be too young to look for that sort of fun. Also, I'd be upset if she blabbed about smoking, but I bet it didn't bother your kids, it's may have even made them feel good to know that you've made a few mistakes too.
She really crossed the line when she said that about your daughter's tattoo even if she didn't approve of it. Telling someone the "ruined their body", is really mean. Sounds like there's something going on between the two of you, and it sounds like your daughter is still angry at the tattoo comment, I know I would be! I think she deserves an apology from your friend, how she deals with her own daughter may not be any of your business, but what she says to your daughter is definitely your business. Have you talked to her about this? Does she feel like she can just say anything at all to your daughter? |
Actually it wasn't my friend, it was her mother,(she lives with them). It's the 14yr olds grandmother.
I guess the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. They never learned to keep it shut unless if you have something nice to say.
No the smoking comment didn't bother my kids, they know I smoked when I was younger..thinking I was cool!! They know.
Her 14yr old emulates everything my daughter does. I mean everything. She looks up to my daughter I guess. I bought my daughter a princess crown necklace a number of years ago..don't you know she got one too. When we went over there yesterday and she had a temporary tattoo on her wrist of the wings with the heart...the same one my daughter has. When my daughter asked her about it she said her friend got it out of a gum ball type machine at toys r us and she gave it to her. My daughter just rolled her eyes at me as if to say.."she did it again"
I mean I could go on and on. Whenever her kids got sick her mom would say "oh you got it from her kids" When my kids weren't even sick.
She would put this 21 yr old, when he was a baby, in the high chair in the livingroom for hours so she didn't have to chase him and the squirt him with a squirt bottle if he started to get antsy.
But she is mother of the year!!
When I lost my twin girls I got pregnant again within 3 months and she says to me, "Oh don't you people have a tv"
So I am very used to the way she is, but I am not like that. I say nothing.
If it was my son who is 13 hanging around with a 16 or 17 yr old that I now know is a bad influence. I certainly would not allow them to "hang out" I definitely would not let them go to the prom together!!!
So what she does with her kids I bite my tongue and say nothing. I just thought this was very odd. I mean can't they find friends their own age??