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Originally Posted by jmdt  No not a romantic relationship. Which doesn't bother me. Its the age and the fact that my daughter knows this girl and how she is. I didn't say anything to my friend as it is really none of my business. I think a Prom should be for the seniors. It is not a high school dance for everyone. It is a privilege to go and I just don't think a 9th grader being there is appropriate. I mean you don't have to have a date. When my son went, he's 22 now, he went with a group of friends male and female. It is very formal with tuxedos, gowns and limousines. It is chaperoned and it is at a very high class catering venue. I don't care what she does with her kids, I just know I would never allow it. Knowing how she is though I am just very surprised.
It just makes me mad that she says things to my kids like," oh your mother smoked' when she was the one that I learned to smoke from.
She has everything to say about my parenting..always..but I was taught to keep my mouth shut. This is the one whos mother told my daughter that her tattoo was nice but doing it in the name of my dad, her grandpa, ..he would be mad because she ruined her body in his name!!!
She was never taught to think it dont say it!!! Like I said I would never say anything to her about this prom thing I just think its odd is all. |
Thanks for giving me a clearer understanding, I can see why you are upset by the whole thing. I'd actually feel better about the girl going if it were a romantic relationship, but if it's not, it means they are going to the prom stag, and looking for fun. She may be too young to look for that sort of fun. Also, I'd be upset if she blabbed about smoking, but I bet it didn't bother your kids, it's may have even made them feel good to know that you've made a few mistakes too.
She really crossed the line when she said that about your daughter's tattoo even if she didn't approve of it. Telling someone the "ruined their body", is really mean. Sounds like there's something going on between the two of you, and it sounds like your daughter is still angry at the tattoo comment, I know I would be! I think she deserves an apology from your friend, how she deals with her own daughter may not be any of your business, but what she says to your daughter is definitely your business. Have you talked to her about this? Does she feel like she can just say anything at all to your daughter?