I wish you all the luck. I was in a similar situation 16 yrs ago. It is hard on the kids to be separated from their father, especially a boy. But you have your life with your present husband to think about. I hope your can convince your ex to agree to fly your son to visit him monthly, but can he afford it? Sorry I don't know the whole story either.
Most of the time divorce is all about 'power struggles' until the children are 18 yrs. old. That is how I see your situation and your son is going to pay the price until he is older.
At this point in my life, after divorce 16 yrs. ago, my son is now 29 yrs. old and lives near his dad and I live 1700 miles away. It is VERY hard, but he made his own choice as soon as he was old enough to do so. Have you considered that? What if he moved back to Dad's area after high school? He has that right. |