Oh dear! How old is Lily? I know its really upsetting to have something ruined by a puppy, but shoes are shoes to her, and she doesn't understand price tag or our attachment to them. And if I remember my dog psychology correctly, puppies usually chew shoes because they smell like us, and they want to be with/near us...
Having said all that...she might have bitten out of fear. If she was caught doing something wrong (which she didn't really understand was wrong) all she would have sensed/heard was that you were suddenly angry with her and coming towards her...hand reaching out (possibly?)...Now think of it from her point of few...Big person (whom you love) suddenly gets angry and comes toward you with their hand out giving off vibes of tension and upset...What would you do? Show teeth (tell them you are afraid)...but they don't stop they keep coming....(snap)...ahhh now they are backing off....
Unfortunately this experience can damage your relationship with your puppy...however; as dogs are much more forgiving of people than we are of each other, you can fix it by trying a new approach. If you have not taught her the command for "drop" and "give"...that would be the best approach. These are essential commands for both the safety of our items (things we don't want the puppy to have/chew) and for their safety (in case they pick up something we don't want them to have outside).
Above all remember...she still loves you, and you must try to replace this negative experience with many good experiences...It is not good to be afraid of your own dog...nor should she be afraid of you...that's not "respect". It really sounds to me like Lily was trying to communicate, but wasn't making herself understood very well. Work on building your relationship and communication skills with her...through training...and you will find you will have the "respect" that you want.
Good luck! |