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Originally Posted by gemy  I went back and looked at the question asked by the OP - need help in convincing my husband.....
She explained a bit of her home situation; that which she though was pertinent to the inquiry. She included the age of her son 15yrs old, which enables responders to understand that she is a mature woman; the length of her marriage 18 yrs, and finally somewhat about why she wants a pup.
How each responder answered the question was under the backdrop of this information.
Some responded and shared their experience in getting a pup: ie; I did the get pup and asked forgiveness; and all worked out.
Some pointed out in their belief systems; that better have your hubby on board prior to committing to a pup; and elaborated "why".
Some shared how they broached the subject with their husband, and why they did it that way; ie overcoming some stated hurdle in the decision making process.
Some commented on her situation as described and expressed concern over what appears to be an overarching problem in their relationship that "the puppy question is perhaps an example of".
Each and every comment can provide this mature woman another point of view, provide if you will a landscape of richness she hadn't seen yet. An opportunity to think about the problem in a different way. That is the pro's of an on line forum.
the reality of this situation and any other situation of "persuading someone" to do this or that, or agree to this or that; is that there are no Magic questions; no universal kindof "gotcha now question".
What we can share is our own individual experiences with a husband that is "initially reluctant or even opposed", and how we got from there to our new "puppy".
For myself I prefer to assume this lady is of matured intelligence, capable of separating responses with her critical thinking skills. After all she did find this forum, and in a subsequent post seems to want to stay here and learn.
To the OP, if you've not been on a forum before, some threads can delightfully digress, meander, and argue back n forth, about this or that.
I for one, hope you stay and ask what-ever question is on your mind and heart. |
Exactly.
OP knows she's the only one who can
decide how to handle her situation and has to live with the results of her decision. She wanted
ideas (IMHO), and there have been lots of them from which she can craft her own solution...or not.
OP'll figure it out...but now she's got a cheering section behind her, too.
