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Originally Posted by gracielove

I'm quite sure at this point that the OP is not reading this thread anymore and I can't blame her. I would be hurt by the rude insulting comments that were made here as well. What makes it doubly hurtful is the fact that the woman was writing about a very recent and painful loss.

We have all seen other new people come to YT and get pounced on by people who feel they have the right to chastise a person who does not have their knowledge base or life experience. This forum is a wonderful resource for new Yorkie owners as well as for the more experienced owner, but what use is that information when the newbie comes to YT with a question or comment and is immediately lambasted for saying something that does not agree with the current information that the more knowledgeable and experienced person may have? It is possible to inform people without being rude. As a matter of fact a person is more likely to accept instruction if you don't give it to them with a baseball bat!

I understand that some people may need a good talking to when they are abusive or just refuse to accept common sense advice but lets give them a chance. I have seen people write one comment or question and never be heard from again because of the rude answers they receive.

The person who started this thread was not even the least bit rude but some people did not like her writing style. Imagine! Insulting and rejecting an entry because you don't like the writing style! Maybe you belong on a totally different forum if you can be so heartless as to insult a person who has just lost their beloved pet because you don't like the way they write! Oh, you think she is a troll! Well, what if you are wrong and have deeply hurt someone who is grieving? Is it worth it just so you can show what a smart person you are and how sarcastic and mean you can be?

I have concern for the people and the their animals that have been driven off this forum before they got the information they needed. Many people are quite ignorant about the dog world and Yorkies in particular. Every opportunity that the people of YT are given to educate people should be taken advantage of and not used as a chance to bash or attack someone because of their lack of knowledge. I think we all need to take a step back and polish our communication skills when dealing with people we find different than ourselves. I say "we" because I include myself. If we are having a bad day then maybe it is not the time to write a reply to someone that rubs us the wrong way.

I know that the majority of responses here were kind and compassionate but it only takes one cutting remark to cancel that out.....especially for a new person. Not everyone is thick skinned and not everyone is used to the type of thing that happens on some forums. I have the feeling that the person that stared this thread was not a forum type of person. I know most of you feel as bad about this as I do. This whole thing just left me feeling sick.

Great post.