I am right there with you all and I have said the same thing. The funny thing is at first she told her Mom that she wasn't going to bring him (3 weeks ago). Then a few days ago I said "Yeah, I don't think it's a good idea to bring him, sounds like there is going to be way too many people." she got a bit upset and said "What do you mean, my Mom wants to see him!"
Oi! I can't win for losing, lol. I'm going to keep stressing that I'm not comfortable with it and for those exact reasons. I didn't say anything about him maybe getting hurt, I just said I think it would be too much for him.
I even tried to get her to bring him to her Moms a couple of weekends ago when we were sitting the kids, she didn't want to go.
Plus, Jimmy is a squirmer when someone picks him up sometimes. He wiggles and wiggles....I almost think he will get dropped on his head
Her Mom lives about 45 minutes away, which isn't bad....she just never wants to go over there and I don't know why :/
Thanks for the advice so far
I didn't think I was being selfish! You all have shown me that I am not.