[Ellie May]

My answers to your questions:

Originally Posted by dawn27

What if . . we all just set our frustrations and opinions aside for once and just answer the OP questions ?

Every post is part opinion. Even just posting a link is telling the OP you think xyz is wrong and this may help. That's an opinion. Frustration with inadequate veterinary care and inexperienced breeding is not a bad thing.

What if . . we care so much about the animal in question and only wrote what we know and guided them in the right direction or only answered what is asked of us ?

...because only answering what is asked is not going to help that person or their dog in the future. And if somebody gets there in time to tell a poster that breeding their 3lb, 6 month old is wrong, maybe they will listen. Perhaps they didn't ask if it was a good idea, but it is certainly in the best interest of the dog to bring up this point. Posters are guided to vets and that is what we know to do. If we know exactly how to fix a problem, most of us won't say so. It is ethically wrong.

What if . . . just for once when someone comes to us for our help and those of us who have the answers give them freely and those of you who only have harsh, unkind, opinionated, judgmental words to say Just Dont !!

I think we've been over this one enough. But most of us do give answers to the best of our ability. Being persistent does not mean that somebody doesn't have the right answer and being kind doesn't mean that somebody does have the right answer. I've read many a kind response from well meaning people who think they are right, but are medically wrong and could seriously injure or kill a dog with their advice. I'm not saying this never happens when somebody says something sternly, but that kindness does not equally correctness.

Too many time I have seen members leave YT because of the harsh opinions of other member. They go away without the knowledge and information they came here for. Information that could have make a deference. I know because I was also judged when I first came to YT, and It frustrates the hell out of me. There are so many times when members will judge others so harshly but do nothing to help them.

I feel good when I log off at the end of the day knowing that I was able to help someone. That when I come here I can offer my experiences as a pet owner and yes a breeder to those who need it. I try very hard to leave my opinions to myself unless asked. I am also very happy to take from YT member the knowledge that I have gathered during my time here on YT and I can admit I learn something new every day.

So, why is it so hard to give other that same respect and knowledge that they seek when they come to us for our help ?