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YorkieLove77 · 11-18-2011, 01:32 PM

I was recently terminated from my job. I had been there 1.5 yrs and was promoted to assistant mgr 7 months ago. My regional mgr had even mentioned that I will become a property manager in no time because I am such a good employee (this is a large mgmt company for apartment communities).

My manager loved me from the get-go and apparently has a habit of latching onto people and quickly wanting to become "BFFs" (and she's almost 40). I know it's my fault for allowing a friendship to develop between myself and my superior as it could turn ugly (and it did), but when you're new at a job you will usually do anything to get them to like you. She would call and text me outside of work, invite me over to her house and her parties and ask me to go out for drinks with her (well, she would drink I would watch...I'm a nondrinker). However, her problem is that when she becomes "BFFs" with one person, the other person in the office becomes "public enemy #1" and she would constantly put him down in front of me. This made me uncomfortable, but I never said anything as I didn't want to jeopardize my job. According to others who are at other properties who had previously worked with her, she is huge into playing favorites.

Working for her though was extremely challenging. She would come in every morning pissed off about something or another...whether her hubby made her mad or her dogs made a mess, or whatever...and make the whole staff uncomfortable. She would ask for something to be done, and if it wasn't complete in 30 seconds take it away and say "ugh, I'll just do it myself". I had to listen to countless stories about her marriage and their "lackluster sex life". Again, I never said anything because I didn't want to become the person on the outs with her. Well, that was a big mistake.

The guy left (for these very reasons) and someone else was hired in his place. This new girl became my mgr's new obsession, and I quickly became the odd man out in the office. I would find them whispering, making plans to hang out and my mgr even allowed the new girl to leave an hour early every day. They practically stopped talking to me and every time I spoke I was met with attitudes and cold shoulders. I felt terrible, so I decided to send an email to my regional mgr and outlined everything, even from the beginning. It was not an angry email, rather, just me telling her how I felt and asked that if we could not remedy the situation if I could be given an internal transfer to another property.

My regional responded to my email by saying how valuable I am to the company and would like to sit down with us to discuss the issue and resolve it. We did exactly that, with my mgr apologizing, and we both said we will continue our work relationship on a professional level. However, 2 days later I was terminated for "misconduct". My regional came back to fire me and said the reason was because I was illegally accessing company information with my manager's passwords that could be considered confidential. She showed me proof of logins from my computer, and said it had been going on for months. The problem is, my mgr had given me all her passwords a long time ago so that I could help her...she would even ask me to do things for her while she was away or on vacation. How the heck would I have gotten all the passwords otherwise?? I'm not a friggin hacker! I told her this, but she didn't care and I was ultimately asked to leave.

This was last week and I'm still so upset over this. I worked so hard for this company. I filed for unemployment right away, but now I'm hearing that if someone is terminated for "misconduct" it can be denied. But I know that the real reason is because I sent that email. Does anyone think that I would have a good chance of winning an unemployment appeal based on my reasoning, as well as the email communication with my regional shortly before being fired? She even stressed how valuable I am to the company. To me, it's just too much of a coincidence for them to suddenly "audit" my computer right after I send in a complaint.

I'm sorry this is so long, but I could really use others' take on my situation or share their own.

11-18-2011, 01:32 PM	#1
YorkieLove77 YT Addict Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Shelby Twp, MI Posts: 278	I got screwed out of my job :( I was recently terminated from my job. I had been there 1.5 yrs and was promoted to assistant mgr 7 months ago. My regional mgr had even mentioned that I will become a property manager in no time because I am such a good employee (this is a large mgmt company for apartment communities). My manager loved me from the get-go and apparently has a habit of latching onto people and quickly wanting to become "BFFs" (and she's almost 40). I know it's my fault for allowing a friendship to develop between myself and my superior as it could turn ugly (and it did), but when you're new at a job you will usually do anything to get them to like you. She would call and text me outside of work, invite me over to her house and her parties and ask me to go out for drinks with her (well, she would drink I would watch...I'm a nondrinker). However, her problem is that when she becomes "BFFs" with one person, the other person in the office becomes "public enemy #1" and she would constantly put him down in front of me. This made me uncomfortable, but I never said anything as I didn't want to jeopardize my job. According to others who are at other properties who had previously worked with her, she is huge into playing favorites. Working for her though was extremely challenging. She would come in every morning pissed off about something or another...whether her hubby made her mad or her dogs made a mess, or whatever...and make the whole staff uncomfortable. She would ask for something to be done, and if it wasn't complete in 30 seconds take it away and say "ugh, I'll just do it myself". I had to listen to countless stories about her marriage and their "lackluster sex life". Again, I never said anything because I didn't want to become the person on the outs with her. Well, that was a big mistake. The guy left (for these very reasons) and someone else was hired in his place. This new girl became my mgr's new obsession, and I quickly became the odd man out in the office. I would find them whispering, making plans to hang out and my mgr even allowed the new girl to leave an hour early every day. They practically stopped talking to me and every time I spoke I was met with attitudes and cold shoulders. I felt terrible, so I decided to send an email to my regional mgr and outlined everything, even from the beginning. It was not an angry email, rather, just me telling her how I felt and asked that if we could not remedy the situation if I could be given an internal transfer to another property. My regional responded to my email by saying how valuable I am to the company and would like to sit down with us to discuss the issue and resolve it. We did exactly that, with my mgr apologizing, and we both said we will continue our work relationship on a professional level. However, 2 days later I was terminated for "misconduct". My regional came back to fire me and said the reason was because I was illegally accessing company information with my manager's passwords that could be considered confidential. She showed me proof of logins from my computer, and said it had been going on for months. The problem is, my mgr had given me all her passwords a long time ago so that I could help her...she would even ask me to do things for her while she was away or on vacation. How the heck would I have gotten all the passwords otherwise?? I'm not a friggin hacker! I told her this, but she didn't care and I was ultimately asked to leave. This was last week and I'm still so upset over this. I worked so hard for this company. I filed for unemployment right away, but now I'm hearing that if someone is terminated for "misconduct" it can be denied. But I know that the real reason is because I sent that email. Does anyone think that I would have a good chance of winning an unemployment appeal based on my reasoning, as well as the email communication with my regional shortly before being fired? She even stressed how valuable I am to the company. To me, it's just too much of a coincidence for them to suddenly "audit" my computer right after I send in a complaint. I'm sorry this is so long, but I could really use others' take on my situation or share their own. __________________ Mommy to JoJo, my heart and soul!!!