I agree with all of these replies and thank you all for the great ideas. I have tried something similar to the envelope with my step son. We call it the treasure box at our house! This worked for about a week and then he lost interest. Again, it was always me reminding him about his behavior for the goodies at the end of the day.
Yes, we do need counceling but according to my husband, that is out of the question. I was able to take Mia to work with me this morning, but I think I will find a nice doggie day care for her in the future... or lock her in my bedroom where they cannot have access to her. When we are home, I allow my step son to play with her and help out with her, all under my supervision of course. I know that he gets jealous of Mia, but he gets jealous of everyone. This child gets more attention than any of our other children as well as his cousins when they are around. It's because he is the youngest. I have tried taking him on ice cream or movie dates in the past for one on one time but his behavior does not change. I've tried time outs, sticker boards, extra attention, no attention, hugs and snuggles, but NOTHING works. I feel like something would work if my husband would take part in any of this but he just tells me I should try harder. I really appreciate all the advice. My step son is certainly an issue that is obviously out of my control right but my main concern is my little girls safety. You have all given me some great ideas and I feel soooo much better now. Thanks to everyone concerned about Mia safety
