[centralnewyorki]

Originally Posted by orinskye

I am having a really hard time with this... i think we are going to have a talk tomarrow because this is really bad...
I feel, that with school (i will soon be taking 18 units!!!! ) and my fiance wants me to get another job while i am doing that (i have to take a Leave of absence from work because i need to be in school during those hours), AND i need to do volunteer work Monday Wed, Fri, as a requirement for the credential program, AND all the homework i will have to complete and tests i will have to study for, AND studying for the RICA (BIG test required in cali for a credential) .... and then cleaning up after my fiance when i finally come home???? (i dont think so .... we are going to really need to have a "group effort" to do all the things that need to be done around here)... oh yeah... and MY sundays are devoted to doing all of his and my laundry....

I would definitely talk to your fiance and tell him that you physically can't do it by yourself with everything else on your plate. If he wants you to get another job, then he will need to assume most of the responsibilities of the household. Believe me, I know what you're going through. In my last year of college, I was doing 15-18 credits, working 30+ hours a week and doing an un-paid internship for about 10 hours a week. (Not to mention the hours and hours I spent on projects, studying, etc.) Just tell him that if you have to do all the cleaning, you'll probably be to tired to do much else. (wink, wink!)