We never play tug of war with our dogs, as it can cause them to "battle" for things they get, and also can damage your authority a bit. I'm sure this isn't true for all dogs, but we've always avoided it.
There is so much else that concerns me about this thread. I just hope you find the right type of assistance, and I feel strongly that it needs to be in person and for both you and the dog. Even a one-time violent act, really IS abusive. I see that you've written of your regret and love for your baby, so please do see what you can do.
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