lol. You have a princess on your hands.
My dogs are like that too.
You can start by making her work for what she gets so she knows she does not get food/water/play without you. So she looks at you as the "leader".
Good or bad, when I give a command (and when I have enough energy to get up), I force them to do what I said. If they don't sit, I put them in a sit myself, etc. Just like if I tell them to be quiet and they don't listen, I drag them away from what they are barking at.