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renee6645 · 08-11-2011, 05:01 PM

Just because you feel that way today doesn't mean you will feel that way forever. When (and if) you are ready to have a baby, have one but only if YOU want to. Don't let anyone bully you into it because it is a huge life-long responsibility. I had my first babies at 24 and 26 and everything about that situation was bad. I couldn't stand my husband (don't feel bad, he couldn't stand me either) and I resented the loss of my free time, my sleep, my money and all that motherhood entailed. I had very sweet, extremely pretty babies too! I just wasn't ready for it. MOM was ecstatic over her grands but it made for a very miserable period in my life. 10 years later (newly remarried), we meticulously planned the birth of my 3rd child. Everything about that birth was joyous and I took delight in every little burp, fart, giggle that child did. I have no idea where my 4th child came from. I went to the doc one day and there he was already 4 months cooking. But I was so excited about that last little one (my first boy), you'd have thought he slid down from heaven on a cloud. I was overwhelming sad that I'd missed out on all of the wonders of motherhood the first 2 times around but I just wasn't prepared for what hit me.

It's vital that YOU want to do it - don't bank on the fact that your "maternal instincts" will kick in and take over because they don't always do that. Mine kicked in when my baby was about 6!

My sister had no children. She e-mails all of us all of her travel itineraries when she is taking a trip - she takes several a year when she has time away from her kick-a## career. I haven't had a really decent vacation in years and now that I have 2 in college, I won't be taking one for a minute! These are the sacrifices that come along with parenting - pushing your car another 100,000 miles so you can get THEM cars then trying not to kill them when they get yet another speeding ticket and your car insurance is more than your mortgage. It's not for the faint of heart...lol. And you have to REALLY know what the benefits to having them are to keep from going completely insane.

God-willing, your time will come. Or not - there may be even grander things in store for you. Worry not, we all have lessons and a purpose in this lifetime - yours will come to you on their own schedule and they will be tailor made and fit just right!

08-11-2011, 05:01 PM	#14
renee6645 Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Richmond, VA, USA Posts: 84	Just because you feel that way today doesn't mean you will feel that way forever. When (and if) you are ready to have a baby, have one but only if YOU want to. Don't let anyone bully you into it because it is a huge life-long responsibility. I had my first babies at 24 and 26 and everything about that situation was bad. I couldn't stand my husband (don't feel bad, he couldn't stand me either) and I resented the loss of my free time, my sleep, my money and all that motherhood entailed. I had very sweet, extremely pretty babies too! I just wasn't ready for it. MOM was ecstatic over her grands but it made for a very miserable period in my life. 10 years later (newly remarried), we meticulously planned the birth of my 3rd child. Everything about that birth was joyous and I took delight in every little burp, fart, giggle that child did. I have no idea where my 4th child came from. I went to the doc one day and there he was already 4 months cooking. But I was so excited about that last little one (my first boy), you'd have thought he slid down from heaven on a cloud. I was overwhelming sad that I'd missed out on all of the wonders of motherhood the first 2 times around but I just wasn't prepared for what hit me. It's vital that YOU want to do it - don't bank on the fact that your "maternal instincts" will kick in and take over because they don't always do that. Mine kicked in when my baby was about 6! My sister had no children. She e-mails all of us all of her travel itineraries when she is taking a trip - she takes several a year when she has time away from her kick-a## career. I haven't had a really decent vacation in years and now that I have 2 in college, I won't be taking one for a minute! These are the sacrifices that come along with parenting - pushing your car another 100,000 miles so you can get THEM cars then trying not to kill them when they get yet another speeding ticket and your car insurance is more than your mortgage. It's not for the faint of heart...lol. And you have to REALLY know what the benefits to having them are to keep from going completely insane. God-willing, your time will come. Or not - there may be even grander things in store for you. Worry not, we all have lessons and a purpose in this lifetime - yours will come to you on their own schedule and they will be tailor made and fit just right! __________________ Mommy to Arielle, Cheyenne, Gabrielle, Lewis, Franklin Francis and Lazarus