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Originally Posted by ChibiLuv  (Warning: rant about not wanting kids- if you have kids no disrespect intended)
I dont understand what everones OBSESSION is about having kids. Really it doesnt seem that glamourous. So I just spayed my little girl and posted pics on my facebook and my aunt was sad I took away her 'womanhood" but I explained after working at the shelter and seeing animals die from overcrowding I just couldnt breed and I added that If I could spay myself I would. Of course this set off my mom who also wants me to have kids and now they are both harping on me! My aunt said I should at least have one so as to not to break my Mom's heart. REALLY?? I should have kids becouse my mom wants grandchildren? Sorry but last time I check that was not a sufficient enough reason to have kids. Even if kids was a possiblity in the future I'm not going to tell her, then every time I saw her itd be "so are you having them now?" and I have pretty much decided that if I do have kids I'm adopting. I rather not do the whole childbirth thing and really I rather have a slightly older kid, like 2 or up because the whole baby thing doesnt appeal to me either. The crying and the constant need for attention, I mean why? Really kids dont get cool until they start to do things for themselves. And weather or not I decide to adopt or have no kids I am NOT basing my decision off my Mom's need for grandchildren. It's none of my aunts or my moms or anyone elses buisness weather I have kids or not and the more they bug me about it the more it makes me NOT want to have kids. I just hate the whole stigmata surrounding having kids. Society acts like first comes love, then comes marraige, then comes a baby in a baby carrage. Like really are we 5 still? I'm not even Married yet. Sure me and my BF are planning the next step but that doesnt mean we are going to get married and immediatly have kids. I want to travel, I'm still young.
Anyways sorry for the rant, had to get that off my chest. |
I am a young mom at the age of 23 my son Adam is 3 and hunny if you don't want them don't have them. I love my little boy he is the joy of my life but no one ever told me how hard it is or that I would have to give up everything for the next 18-25 years of my life. I know here in the part of KY that I live in we have a lot of teen pregnancy and I go and mentor girls who want to have baby's so young. I tell them if you want to have a baby wait until you have done everything in you life you ever want to do because when you have a baby it is no longer your life you live for them.I also tell them to finish school and make a stable life for themselves. I mean I had big dreams of backpacking in Ireland and ho-boing on some beach somewhere but then I had bubba and now everything I do I have to do for him! My HD and I had been married 1 month and both working fast food and going to collage when I got prego it happened so fast. He quit school and went to work underground. I stayed in school and had to go through Nursing school with a baby and then toddler I graduated in May of this year. I am not complaining I love my life and I love being a mommy! I would not trade him for anything or take having him back ever!!!! But life would have been easier if I would have been ready. But it is a huge life changing decision and no one tells you everything that can go wrong my little boy has just been diagnosed with Leg-Calf syndrome and it sucks he hurts a lot and there is nothing I can do but some pt and give him pain meds.... So don't let anyone pressure you !!!