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Originally Posted by aproctor  I am not that sensitive (if I was I would not have posted this for fear of people being mean to me) and I didn't write this just for me. If you look at my thread in S/I you will see that I do defend myself and don't take any crap from anyone and YES I AM A GROWNUP and I function VERY WELL thank you! But snide condescending remarks are uncalled for in the real world and are not necessary. This world is harsh enough we don't need to be harsh on people that don't deserve it.
The biggest issue I have is when people don't read what I write and come to some other conclusion themselves and then accuse me of not taking the advice that I was given when it is 100% UNTRUE.....if people take the time to comment then they should always know what they are commenting about and not take bits and pieces and try to make it sound like something it's not.
Maybe I grew up in a different world but I was taught by my parents to respect people and I do as long as they respect me! |
I for one have been guilty of reading the first couple of posts in a thread and responding without reading the following 350+ responses. That doesn't mean that someone is trying to make it sound like something it's not, just that things weren't clearly laid out in the first post.
Again, I want to know why it's ok to say some is being judgmental or calling someone a bully because you don't like what they posted. Isn't that being judgmental? Telling others how to word their posts so as not to offend YOUR sensibilities is exceedingly rude, IMO.
I moderate a board on a very controversial topic. Passions get inflammed and tempers flare. But never in that time has anyone EVER called someone else "mean" or a "bully" because they didn't like the "tone" in which something was written.
And I guess we did grow up in different worlds. My respect for people isn't dependent upon whether or not they respond in kind. I am grown up enough to let things go and realize that it's not all about me and my feelings.