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Originally Posted by Rhetts_mama  I've come to the conclusion that some people (not pointing to anyone in particular, just making a general statement and I haven't read the particular thread in question) come to YT with the express purpose of hearing only what they want to hear. If someone gives an opposing opinion they immediately cry foul and say everyone is being rude or mean.
We all want to have our opinions/decisions validated. But in real life, that's not the way it works. Sometimes we are dead on right. But at other times times the decisions we make are wrong or misguided or even dangerous. That's when being open to alternative points of views can be not only helpful but life saving.
It's also important to remember that in the threads relating to illnesses and emergencies that nothing written there should EVER take the place of a hands on examination by a licensed vet, and in some cases, a specialist. A good vet should be confident enough in their own knowledge that they don't hesitate to send someone to a specialist for more intense testing or treatment. To relate it in human terms, I would never let an obstetrician put in a heart stent nor would I go to a cardiac surgeon to do a tubal ligation. Each of the docs has the same general knowledge, but they've chosen to focus their studies and practice in specific areas.
But back to the whole "they are being mean" thing... really people, it's time to grow up. Every time I see that written I just cringe. It feels so junior high. Getting caught up in what you perceive to be the tone rather than looking at the actual words ends up taking threads so far off topic that they aren't even recognizable any more. I sometimes wonder how people function in the real world when their feelings are so easily bruised. The ignore button can be your best friend if you really are that sensitive. Just use it with caution because you run the risk of missing out on some really helpful advice. |
I am not that sensitive (if I was I would not have posted this for fear of people being mean to me) and I didn't write this just for me. If you look at my thread in S/I you will see that I do defend myself and don't take any crap from anyone and YES I AM A GROWNUP and I function VERY WELL thank you! But snide condescending remarks are uncalled for in the real world and are not necessary. This world is harsh enough we don't need to be harsh on people that don't deserve it.
The biggest issue I have is when people don't read what I write and come to some other conclusion themselves and then accuse me of not taking the advice that I was given when it is 100% UNTRUE.....if people take the time to comment then they should always know what they are commenting about and not take bits and pieces and try to make it sound like something it's not.
Maybe I grew up in a different world but I was taught by my parents to respect people and I do as long as they respect me!