So sad to hear this is happening to you and Mike, i worked in a nursing home for 7 years and with Senior Service ( in home care, adult day care) for 12 years. I have seen so much neglect of the elderly but we also had younger patients. Unfortunately nursing home pay is so low that some of the people that work there don't care about actually doing their job, also usually understaffed so the few of us that did want to give good patient care were overwhelmed. but this is no reason for your husband to be treated this way. Many of the people I knew would hire a private sitter for their loved one to make sure they got the proper care.I think more people (if they can) are choosing to keep their loved one at home, they receive better care. I never understood why Medicare and Medicaid would pay enormous amounts of money for someone to live in a nursing home instead of giving that money to the family so they could care for their loved ones at home. Also by state gudelines al staff is required to document everything that is done for every patient. My neighbor had his wife in a nursing home (private pay) and decided to bring her home where he could take care of her(he was 88).Hopefully you can have someone (nurses, aides , therapy) and insurance will pay for it, don't know if you have medicare.It is a tremendous strain on a spouse to give this care everyday, so hopefully you will have someone give you some rest. I would report everyone involved, nursing homes have an organization Ombundsman program that you can report neglect and abuse, My prayers are with you and Mike that he can come home and receive the care he deserves. I have always told myself I would never have my husband in a NH if I was able to take care of him at home, but I know this isn't always possible for everyone. God Bless You and Mike. |