07-17-2011, 10:56 PM
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| My favorite is when a child hits, the parent then spanks the child at the same time telling the child "we don't hit!"   Quote:
Originally Posted by Wylie's Mom In my opinion, spanking a child ('lightly' or otherwise) only teaches a child that the answer to 'unacceptable' behavior should be met w/ some kind of physical violence. So in essence, it just teaches them to hit in turn. Also, whatever emotion or tantrum is occurring never gets resolved bc you've 'startled' them out of it, and that results in future repression of emotions. Yes kids have tantrums, but to match crazy behavior w/ hitting/swatting/popping is not the answer.
Take something away from them that is a privilege, but don't take away their feeling of physical safety in their family. And that's not something I'm repeating from some textbook (altho it says it there too) - I know this from experience.
Hitting - lightly, moderately, or severely is still hitting - no matter how anyone tries to position it. I would never hit anyone (and never have) unless they were fatally attacking my family, my pets, another human being, or another animal. |
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