[yorkiemini]

And poor Pooter is not being ripped apart in the midst of this?

I would not begin to try to tell anyone else what to do...but I can only hope that somewhere in all of this what is really best for Pooter will be the priority.
It does seem that Pooter is not a priority at this time.

When we take on the responsibility of children, dogs, or our elderly parents we are committed to seeing it through for them -- that would be doing what is best for them not necessarily what is best for us. It is all about the commitment, or rather the promise.

Best of luck to Pooter.