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Originally Posted by McheleM  So if you don't carry a child for 9 months and birth that child from your body, then you don't love that child as much as one you did carry and birth?
I'm calling BS. Adoptive parents feel just as deeply for their adopted kids as they do for biological ones. Some moms even induce lactation and breastfeed to increase the bonding experience. And I will guarantee you that my friend Linda loves her daughter with every fiber and ounce of her body. She didn't carry that child-I did. And guess what? I carried a baby and birthed it from my body and feel no emotional attachment to it at all. Does that make me cold and heartless? I enjoyed it so much i did it again with twins!
Some of your comments are not only uncalled for but completely ludicrous and you struck a few nerves.
You aren't seeming to understand that there are people out there who don't want kids, can't have kids, had kids that are now grown and these animals are a replacement. It may be crazy to you but until you've walked a mile in their shoes...... |
DID I SAY ONE WORD ABOUT ADOPTIVE CHILDREN IN THE COMPARISON OF DOGS VERSUS CHILDREN??? NO!! I said you cannot compare a dog to a child! YOU CAN'T BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT A CHILD!!!
A manager of a store and also the FEDERAL/STATE/LOCAL GOVERNMENT WILL NEVER state that an animal be it dog, cat, cow, horse, whale, monkey ext. is EQUAL to a human being.
Sorry that's just the truth of it. I'm not being insensitive to people that have dogs because they don't want, can't have, or didn't have children. I'm 100% fine with that and think that's a wonderful thing. I did it myself for 2 1/2 years because I needed something to keep me from being depressed and lonely and my dogs were wonderful friends and family members to me. BUT they aren't human children. They are furry children that I love to pieces but I don't expect them to be able to go where ever I go because they aren't my children they are my dogs and not everyone on earth will see them as the family members that I see them as. I can't expect others to bend the rules because i love my dogs like family. BECAUSE they are not human children they are at the end of the day still doggies.
Please stop putting words into my mouth. you have no idea what i feel about adoption, surrogacy, or any other form of having a child outside of having a birth child. If you must know I actually have considered adopting my next child even though I am capable of having my own children because I feel that I can and should give a child a home with me and a family to love them when their birth family couldn't do that for them.
I also think surrogacy is a beautiful and wonderful thing. It's a miracle gift that some people are able to give to others. I think it's fantastic that someone is able to carry a child for another mother to love. I don't totally agree that the surrogate carries no emotion for the baby they birth. There is emotion and attachment in any pregnancy and birth, but I agree that you are not a bad person for having the strength and courage to carry someone else's baby and turn that baby over to their new mother and/or father.
ANYWAYS this isn't even about children, it's about being rude to a store clerk for telling you the rules of their store. As the front desk clerk at the local community center. We are just following the rules we are told to enforce. We don't allow dogs and until the government says that dogs are equal to children we probably won't change our rules. And we don't want to be treated nasty over asking you to leave with your dog.