I need some good thoughts.. I am a extremely shy person and I avoid confrontation at all costs. But lately I have been having issues at work and I desperately need some advice.
I have been a Nanny for almost 7 years. I will be the first to admit taking care of kids is hard. But taking care of other people's kids is even more of a challenge. I am a very easy going person, I let things go and try to look on the bright side of things but I have been having some issues lately.
I am responsible for a 11, 7, and 3 year old. All of which, are in numerous activities and are on the go all the time. I have been with this current family since July of 09. So almost exactly 2 years.
I also use my car for the job and I since gas started getting really expensive it has really taken a hit on my budget. Because, she is keeping them so busy with camps, playdates, piano, extra tutoring, etc, it turns out all I do is run them around. Needless to say, I feel like a "glorified taxi driver."
So, along with using my car, I do NOT get reimbursed for gas. Not a dime. Because of this I am not able to do the things I would like to after work because I spent my gas budget running around her kids to all of their activities. Last month alone I spent 211.00 on gas. No, that may not seem alot to some, especially who commute or drive bigger cars. But I can not afford this...
I am trying to pay off medical bills from a previous accident I had about 2 years ago. I am doing the best I can, but I truly can not pay to drive her children around anymore.
Yesterday, while on the phone with her she was going over the schedule..
11 yr old hockey camp 9-2
7 yr old sylvan tutoring 11:30- 1:30.
Pick 11 yr old up after I pick up 7yr old
Then at 3 drop off 11 yr old at birthday party clear across town.
I said, ok sounds good. I will hang out with the 3 year old while the 7 yr old goes to tutoring and then we will go pick up 11 yr old at hockey camp.
She said, so your going to hang out in your car for 2 hours? I said, Yes, you know I have done this before, she usually falls asleep anyways.
No, I don't want you to do that. If she falls asleep sure, but if she is awake, no way. I am confused, I have done this before and she KNOWS this, why the concern all of the sudden?
At this point I was livid. I can't afford to drive back and forth all day with her kids on my dime. I just can't do it. There is a giant tree that I park my car under. I bring snacks and books and a portable dvd player. 99 percent of the time she sleeps anyways.
I said, Ok, well then we need to sit down and figure out a gas budget because I can't afford to take your kids around like this anymore. I am constantly at the gas pump and we should come up with a plan.
She didn't say much after that but said, we will talk tonight... I think I shocked her. I usually never say anything.
We have yet to talk about it. Her husband got home before she did, and when I got here this morning she was already gone. And I am a worry wart. I can't be without my job but I can't afford this anymore.
I hope I didn't overstep my bounds but I can't do this anymore.
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