Just read this thread for the first time, and I'm sorry things are exhausting and trying for you and your hubby. But, I'm so glad you have a new outlook and are feeling so much better about things.
Marriage is tough, but so rewarding and comforting and fun. I've been married for 23 years and some days are harder than others, some YEARS are harder than others, but it's all so worth it. My hubby and I are about to be empty nesters, so will discover a whole new phase of life. I'll probably be posting asking for advice many a time!
I noticed you said you like writing things down better than communicating in person sometimes. Maybe you could leave him notes to find when he gets up in the morning, gets home, or while he's away at work?
Men also need to hear a LOT of positive reinforcement, naming the things they've done that you notice and appreciate.
One of my VERY favorite books for couples is "The Five Love Languages". It explains that we all have different love languages and how to love and be loved depending on where we are. It is a life(and marriage) saver!
Keep up the good work, and may more rest, time and joy be coming your way!
Jen/Jinger (Zoe)
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