@horsnaround... thanks! I didn't even think to do that. I will try... can't hurt eh? lol
@armaniman... i have all the time in the world to give her, and am willing to

it's the husband that isn't impressed, he loves her but not enough to watch me cleaning up pee and poop constantly and dealing with the carpet.
she sleeps with me, sits on my lap while i work, follows me to the bathroom, lays on my feet when i'm watching t.v., begs me to throw her fetchie toy never hesitates to bring it right back to me etc i think the bonding has been going great so far... i never have to yell for her to come hang out with me because she is always already by me.
i have her tethered to the table now, which i sit at all day for work so hopefully this will help. we're in the process of crate training her [which she's doing amazing with] and so I always take her outside straight from the crate. no more free roam of the house :/
@isabelleollie thanks

i am leaving...NOW! lol to get her the yard line, and i have her on her leash teathered to the table. so next time when she whines we go straight outside and she doesn't get to come in until she goes... right?
I really hope it works out too, trust me it's not my idea to even start thinking about finding her a new home, it's the husband, he thought we got a housetrained dog... which so did i. and we did, just not housetrained the way that fits our accommodations. I do feel more bad for her than I do for me. I don't mind cleaning up after her, it's not her fault she's in a new home after 8 months and in a new situation :/