Thank you for all of your wonderful suggestions.
Here's a quick clarification and update.
We got Zoe on March 26th. The first week she was home one of us (husband or myself) stayed home with her. The second week my mom came over at lunch time (11 am until abt 11:45 am) and then she came back at 4:30pm. Zoe does great with this routine. She never potties in the crate (she's only pottied in it twice since we've had her)
The third week there was 2 days where we couldn't come home and I couldn't find anyone to come visit her..so she was crated all day....but surprisingly she did great. The second day she had a rougher time. She has not (and hopefully will not) be crated that long ever again...it was circumstantial and I hated it completely....
We have done lots of research and talked to experts, (breeders, petcare people, this forum) etc. and we are doing everything we can to make sure we handle her appropriately and healthily. We finally found some treats that she actually likes and so training is getting a lot easier...she is so cute, she will potty and look back at you like "see me???" ha ha. But she knows what "treat" is and is learning that she only gets treats when she potties outside.
It is getting easier and she is finally getting acclimated. She's so fun and full of life. And she's a Mama's girl.
Thanks for all of your suggestions. There are some really great ideas. And for those of you fussing at me, just know, I would never treat this baby wrong...we are doing all we can...and getting help when we can't.
We are learning as we go!!