I've been married almost 31 years, so I'm coming from that perspective. A lot of guys get really caught up in their world away from the women in their lives. I think the military would be an easy one for that to happen in. Personally, I wouldn't want to mess with it if I were young and starting out. My husband is somewhat that way and there have been some painful times. (Example -- on the way to my sister's funeral he wanted to know if I wanted to stop in and meet some people. Not the way to the town where the funeral was going to be and we were staying -- this was on the way to the actual service where one of her two young children screamed on my lap the whole time.) think it's just a sort of workaholic or playaholic obtusenss. They get caught up in what they're doing and they just aren't aware of the world -- at least for that time. Some of them like that are GREAT when they come home. Some improve with age (like mine) but you can't count on that. You have to take or leave them on the basis of what you see is what you get. It sounds like you want to have a man who doesn't cut his life into slices. So let this one go. Find one who's tuned in more evenly across all the aspects of his life. |