I know at times we all complain about something or other that bothers us about our "men". When I get the answer "it's just a man thing!" I am furious.WHY is it a MAN thing? Partly, because we make excuses for his actions both to ourselves AND others. I feel there comes a time and personally, I think it should be early in a relationship BEFORE certain behavior patterns are established, when the person says "Enough! I will not tolerate you treating me that way and I in turn will not treat you that way!"
I, also, am not suggesting that you drop him or issue an ultimatum, but clearly, this is not a happy, nourishing, mutual loving relationship as it is now. Is change needed? I think so. BUT, we cannot change how another person acts or feels, what we can change is how we react to those things.
Pre-marital counselling, if marriage is in the future, is an absolute necessity if a permanent relationship is to work between 2 such persons.
Re-think your responses and demands and take a look at how well this relationship meets your needs, and his.
Also, your mom is in my prayers and I hope she is better by the time all of the posts are read. Best of luck to you in your future.. |