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Originally Posted by roseylovestosho  Thank you for the information. The director did not overhear the comment that was made, otherwise she would have definitely said something about it. I wasn't even aware that what they were doing was sexual harassment, but considering they are constantly talking about my looks you are absolutely right...it certainly is sexual harassment. I really appreciate you warning me about speaking with a faculty member and the consequences. There is one professor that I'm extremely close to but I wouldn't want to put him in the position where he would have to report it (HE is a bit of a feminist lol). I guess I have a lot of thinking to do and just somehow deal with it...it's just that graduate school is difficult enough as it is, without the addition of so much animosity  |
I'd be very careful about going down the sexual harassment path, true sexual harassment is really horrible, and they aren't only making fun of your looks. Remember, men are no more than little boys, I don't know if you've had brothers and learned that their sense of humor is different, but I think girls who grow up with boys have an easier time. They tease each other all the time, and put each other down all the time; they laugh it off though. This is really the way many men connect with each other, they don't compliment each other, they insult each other. I mean have you ever heard a man say to another man, "I really like those shoes your wearing today." My grown sons still tease each other and tease me about everything, I think I've heard compliments from time to time, to each other, "Cool shirt," but mainly it's teasing. My advice is to learn to laugh it off, and if you want to be accepted by them as an equal you will have to gain their acceptance by manning up! Learn to laugh at their dumb jokes if possible. Be careful not to destroy them, they have fragile egos, believe it or not. I really don't think they can take much teasing from a woman. Ask to be included in the study secessions, tell them you'll bring some cookies. Men eventually learn, that they like to be around woman more than they like to be around men. Give them time, and have pity on them, its not easy being a man either. After seeing your picture, I'll bet you intimidate them, you're very pretty.