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JeanieK · 03-13-2011, 02:01 PM

I think if people posted on here like they would speak to a stranger, in person, the tone would be entirely different.

I also believe that some people are on here so much and have become so hardened from all of the negative posts, that it has made them very negative people. And if they cannot see that their posts are rude, then they really need to take a long break from YT.

There are some things that just plain should not be said. And as it was pointed out, is your intent to relieve your frustration or is it to communicate.

There is no communication in rudness. The only thing the person hears is the rude, and the message is lost entirely.

So spin it any way you want. But rude is rude and there is WAY too much of it on here.

If someone tells you that they see your post as rude then maybe you should try to put yourself in their postion. They might be right.

So instead of spinning it around, why not try reading your post before you hit reply.

A moderator once said that she views critisizm as an opportuity to improve herself. I can't remember the exact words but that was the message.

I think the rudness is done just for show. They really don't care whether or not the person gets the message. If they did they would word it differently.

If you have begun to feel like every newbie that comes on asking questions about breeding, is an irresponsible idiot, then perhaps you should not reply to them.

Each new person is an individufal, not the same people you have posted to before, and they deserve to be spoken to like adults, with respect. If they have made up their mind to breed, and you don't like it, then that is YOUR problem, not theirs.

You cannot chang other people, you can only change how you react to them.

BTW I did not know the meaning of "catharting" so I'm glad she posted the meaning so I didn't have to look it up.

So now I am done catharting.

03-13-2011, 02:01 PM	#145
JeanieK Donating YT 12K Club Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Council Bluffs Iowa Posts: 12,552	I think if people posted on here like they would speak to a stranger, in person, the tone would be entirely different. I also believe that some people are on here so much and have become so hardened from all of the negative posts, that it has made them very negative people. And if they cannot see that their posts are rude, then they really need to take a long break from YT. There are some things that just plain should not be said. And as it was pointed out, is your intent to relieve your frustration or is it to communicate. There is no communication in rudness. The only thing the person hears is the rude, and the message is lost entirely. So spin it any way you want. But rude is rude and there is WAY too much of it on here. If someone tells you that they see your post as rude then maybe you should try to put yourself in their postion. They might be right. So instead of spinning it around, why not try reading your post before you hit reply. A moderator once said that she views critisizm as an opportuity to improve herself. I can't remember the exact words but that was the message. I think the rudness is done just for show. They really don't care whether or not the person gets the message. If they did they would word it differently. If you have begun to feel like every newbie that comes on asking questions about breeding, is an irresponsible idiot, then perhaps you should not reply to them. Each new person is an individufal, not the same people you have posted to before, and they deserve to be spoken to like adults, with respect. If they have made up their mind to breed, and you don't like it, then that is YOUR problem, not theirs. You cannot chang other people, you can only change how you react to them. BTW I did not know the meaning of "catharting" so I'm glad she posted the meaning so I didn't have to look it up. So now I am done catharting.