It is hard but definitely better for her. I worried and postponed Maddie's spay as well. I knew it was the right thing to do but couldn't get past my own fear. She had her surgery while I was off work for two weeks for Christmas. She did beautifully and was the perfect angel and didn't try to lick at her stitches, etc. I am glad I had all that time to be with her but honestly I think I needed the extra time with her more than she needed me